The way that I talk to myself can be helpful or hurtful.
Positive self-talk helps me reach goals.
Negative self-talk holds me back and drags me down.

I can choose to be kind to myself
through everything that I experience.

If you had a friend who talked to you
like you sometimes talk to yourself,
would you continue to hang around with that person?

How do we one persuade ourselves
to change our behavior
when we don't feel like it?

This is a tough one.

It helps to notice how we talk to ourselves.
Do we give ourselves commands?

It can help to stop giving ourselves orders.
Instead work to be specific about what's to be done and why,
and to turn one's attention to why eating appropriately is important.

Change the self-command to a self-request.
Work to keep the reasons "why" at the front of the mind.

It helps to back up our self-requests with solid reasons.
Add the word "because" to the request.

If your mind says…"You shouldn't snack"
add a reason like…" because you'll regret it later",
or…"because you're still going to want to eat a full dinner",
or…"because snacking is going to lead to weight gain which will make your back ache more"

Be specific about the behavior you need to do,
and turn your attention to your reasons for it.
Keep these reasons at the front of your mind,
and don't let them slip out of awareness.

WIll this help?
Sometimes.  

This morning I posted a new Diet Wisdom video,

Bodyweight Percenages  

which is located at DietHobby, under DIET WISDOM,  Basics.
 

 Following that saying in the video above isn't always easy,
but it's something to work toward. 

Resentment thrives when we're not willing
to end a disagreement or overlook a slight
by putting forth an offering of kindness, love and forgiveness.

It's often hard to disregard the ego's need to be right,
and to extend kindness by letting go of anger.
But, each one of us can be the one seeking a way to give,
rather than the one looking for something to get.

Regardless of what others around us are doing,
ultimately, we'll feel better if we let go of resentments,
and extend love to the others around us.

A book I talked about recently, 

"The Power of Habit" (2012) by Charles Duhigg, says:

"This is how willpower becomes a habit;
by choosing a certain behavior ahead of time,
and then following that routine when an inflection point arrives."

I was unfamiliar with that term, so I looked it up.
An inflection is defined as a deviation from a straight or normal course;
a variation that deviates from the standard or norm.
So an Inflection Point is when a change in one's normal situation takes place.

This book's statement confirms what I have previously learned:
that in matters of weight control, It's important to plan ahead;
to visualize a way to handle potential problem situations:
and then, when problems arise,
to follow through with the visualized plan
despite the existence of those difficulties.

However, before reading the above-quoted statement,
I had not considered my previous knowledge
to be a part of the habit building function.

Recently I've been thinking about the concepts of Personal Worth,
and or feelings of Worthlessness as they apply to me and to my own
endeavors with food, weight-loss, and maintenance of weight-loss.

I'm rather fond of the psychological concepts of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT),
and also of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT).

One of the concepts of REBT, is that
...if intrinsic value exists at all...
we get it because we CHOOSE, we DECIDE to have it. 
It exists because of our own definition.
We are "good" or "deserving" because we THINK we are,
and not because anyone awards us this kind of "inherent value". 

When persons can call themselves "worthwhile" just because they decide to do so,
they will tend to lose their desparate need for the approval of others. 
If we reduce our need for the esteem of others, 
we will find it easier to stop rating ourselves as persons,
and will come to value ourselves simply because we are alive. 

A philosophy of "worth" and "worthlessness" leads to disturbed feelings
of guilt, shame, and self-loathing, and we'll be better off with the concept
that we are not "worthwhile" because of our effectiveness,
or "worthless" because of our ineffectiveness. We merely EXIST. 

Self-acceptance means fully accepting oneself,
one's existence, and one's right to live and to be as happy as one can be,
--- no matter WHAT traits one has, or what acts one does. 

Self-acceptance doesn't mean self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect,
or self-regard, because all of these terms imply that one accepts onself
BECAUSE one does something well, or BECAUSE other people like one. 
Unconditional self-acceptance means that you accept yourself
because you are alive and have DECIDED to accept yourself. 

Unconditional self-acceptance makes several minimal assumptions 
about people's intrinsic worth or value. These are:

• You exist
  
  
• By continuing to exist, you can probably achieve more pleasure than pain,
  thus making it desirable for you to keep living.
  
  
• You can help reduce your pain and increase your pleasure.

• You decide that you will try to live and make your life as pleasurable 
  and as unpainful as you can make it...  You can choose to strive for achievement
  and approval, but not to prove your greatness as a person, but only because
  you PREFER to achieve and to be loved. 

For those interested in learning more about these concepts, 
I recommend reading "A Guide To Rational Living" (1997) &"
"The Art & Science of Rational Eating" (1992) by Albert Ellis, PH.D.